Welcome to my life as a stay at home mom. To be completely honest, this is my first blog. I am sitting here wondering do I really have anything interesting to say. I think stay at home moms sometimes wonder if we have anything to contribute. I know I have had that thought many times. Not only that but I fail many, many times at being a good stay at home mom.
Why Start A Website or Diary?
One of the reasons I started this website was to share life with others. While I am so thankful that I was able to be at home with our first child, Grady, it’s not all roses. I think both stay at home moms and working moms sometimes look over to the other side of the fence and think it would be easier on the other side. I worked outside of the home for the first couple years of marriage but I have worked with our own business since before our kids were born. I’m pretty sure neither is easier and both have their ups and downs. Obviously, I will be writing based on a stay at home mom but if you don’t fall into that category, I hope you stay. I want this to be a place where we can all share and learn together as women.
I know when we had Grady, I struggled with feeling alone during the day. At that point, I worked from home, had very little family around and attended a small church in a different city. My circle of friends was very small – my husband’s brother’s family and our business partners were also our best friends from church. I knew very few people from our community which lead to a lot of the loneliness.
Things Looking Up
Right before our daughter Zoe was born, we switched to a larger church in our city. Also, around that time Grady started preschool. Between Bible studies and moms group at our new church and moms at Grady’s preschool, my group of friends quickly grew. It was a very welcome change. While things started looking up for me, I know not everyone has this experience. If you are a mom experiencing loneliness, trying to find a moms group might be a great place to connect with other moms.
I want to this to be an honest representation of my life. I want you to understand that while I have many posts on cleaning and organizing, my home doesn’t like it is out of a magazine. It isn’t always clean or organized, there are many times of chaos in our home. Two active kids and working from home adds extra mess. Not long after having the kids clean the basement, I went down to do laundry and this is what I found.
But that is reality. While I do strive to have a clean, organized house, I also want to have a comfortable, lived in home. I want my kids to be able to be kids and enjoy life. There is definitely a balance and I am still working on finding that balance.
So in the last couple weeks, Zoe has lost her first two teeth. After her first tooth fell out, she was so excited for the tooth fairy to come. Well, it happened on the same day that my husband came home late from a missions trip in Spain and we were exhausted. Of course……the tooth fairy never made it that night. Zoe came down the next morning a little confused and sad that the tooth fairy didn’t come. Thankfully, I was able to remember the next night. So, she lost another tooth a couple weeks later and guess what? The tooth fairy forgot to come again! Ah! Mom fail again. The following night, I woke up at 2:30 in the morning and remembered her tooth. So, I get out of bed and try to quietly find a dollar. Of course, I could only find quarters so I grab them and head to her room. Now, Zoe is an incredibly light sleeper so I head to her room and see her squirming in bed. So, I stand there for a few minutes trying to think of an excuse of why I am in her room just in case she wakes up. Thankfully, she didn’t wake up. Phew! However, she does come down the next morning and says she didn’t get a dollar, the tooth fairy only left her quarters. I explained that it was the same money as a dollar but she was still disappointed that it wasn’t a dollar bill.
I don’t know if it’s the weather or lack of sleep but lately, Grady and Zoe are trying to find things to fight about with each other. Whether it’s who gets to use the toothpaste first or what chair they sit on for dinner, they are arguing over absurd things. I have been getting increasingly frustrated with them. I know they love each other but at times lately, they seem to forget that. I know it’s a stage but I would love to hear if you have any tips on how to deal with this.
Then those same kids can melt my heart moments later. I was proud of Zoe on Sunday. There was a new boy in her Sunday School class and she showed him around the class and where are the toys were. I love that they are both so kind to other people, just wish sometimes that transferred to each other.
But these are the ups and downs of parenting. None of us are perfect and I believe we are all striving to be a better wife, mom or _______ (whatever your blank is).
I would love to have this as a place where we can uplift each other and help each other. I want to say that this is a safe sight. I would love to have you share your comments or stories but please try to keep them clean. Also, if commenting on this post or replying to others, please keep the phrase in mind “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. I want everyone to feel better than when they came to this site.
Here’s to a great weekend!